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| Name | Nervous System Pattern: 100% Independence, Self-Reliance + Fear of Depending on Others |
| Video Uploader | Video From Elisha Celeste |
| Upload Date | This Video Uploaded At 03-09-2020 00:34:19 |
| Video Discription | // WHERE TO FOLLOW ME // Website: https://elishaceleste.com/ Substack: https://humanfreedomproject.substack.com/ Learn Kinetix with me: https://kinetix.academy/ // 2023 CHANNEL UPDATE // I’ve moved on from Mobility Mastery (self fascia release) in order to focus on teaching Kinetix, my method of root cause discovery for pain and dis-ease that involves partner fascia release as a “diagnostics” (and regeneration) tool. Kinetix is a complete scientific methodology that I teach to friends, partners and professionals alike inside The Kinetix Academy. My other primary focus will be the launch and growth of a new podcast and Substack community called The Human Freedom Project. // NEW CONTENT ON YOUTUBE // Sometime in 2023 I will return to YouTube with HFP podcast episodes and content created to help you know and understand yourself as a whole organism made of body, soul and spirit. This content will feature the Kinetix methodology, pain science, fascia secrets I’ve learned from 15+ years in private practice, neuroscience and evolving beyond the brain, trauma and the body, and more! I’m excited to go on this new adventure with you. *********** // VIDEO DESCRIPTION // ********** Timecodes 0:00 - Intro 0:43 - How This Pattern Starts in Childhood 4:11 - Signs That You Have This Nervous System Pattern 14:33 - Positive Aspects of Extreme Self-Reliance 15:52 - Why You Should Interrupt This Pattern 17:16 - How to Change Fear of Depending on Others This video is part of a series on nervous system patterns or automated behaviors we engage in at the subconscious (nervous system) level whenever we feel threatened. Make sure to check out the other videos too. What kind of life, and what kind of relationships, will an adult create when one of their primary (offensive) protection strategies is total self reliance and a deep fear of depending on anyone else? I can tell you from personal experience: you’ll be creative and a master problem solver; you can figure most things out that scare or deter other people; you know how to be with discomfort and uncertainty and find a way through it because…that’s just what you do. You don’t even think about it or deliberate, you just GO when things get hard. You have an unshakeable self-confidence that’s not necessarily about believing in your higher aspirations, but you know you can handle shit so you tend to be a take charge kind of person and you get shit done. There are MANY benefits to this pattern that could serve you. I suspect many entrepreneurs, business owners and inventors have this pattern as a dominant force in their lives. However...there are many downsides to this pattern as well. Relationships can be challenging (not just romantic, but all relationships), and always being the most reliable person you know? It’s exhausting. And lonely. Here are the top signs that you also (like me) have this pattern in your history: Feeling like the only “responsible” one in your life (while resenting other people for not being as responsible as you). You may frequently ask yourself with exasperation “Do I have to do EVERYTHING myself?!” Anxiety/terror at the thought of having kids or moving in with a partner. Monitoring close relationships, especially romantic partners for signs they can’t be depended on. You tend to see other people as incompetent. Being friends with a wide variety of people, but NOT part of any “group” of close friends; Being totally ok (maybe even BETTER off) by yourself; Judging other people for being needy or clingy or lacking personal sovereignty. Aka, thinking OTHER people should also be fiercely independent. Having a hard time receiving help or receiving compliments. When someone does something nice for you, you might even get anxiety and while you know you should THANK them, the idea of thanking them fills you with dread. At a glance, this is how you break this pattern: Realize that not ALL people are dependable. Find the dependable ones. Forgive the ones who aren’t dependable (they have their own nervous system patterns preventing them from becoming a healthy integrated adult). Practice asking for help and when you get it - practice profound GRATITUDE. Practice RECEIVING without feeling like you have to do something even better/nicer in return. Look for trustworthiness in others instead of for signs that they cannot be trusted. Tell the people in your life that you trust to see and love you about this pattern, and ask them to call you out on it. Make room for the people who want to support you to mess up and be human. Get ok feeling disappointed or let down. This might happen sometimes when you let yourself depend on other people. |
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