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Kristin M, Snowden, MA, LMFT, CDWF specializes in betrayal trauma, addiction recovery, and helping individuals/couples navigate relationship crises (Co-hosted by Tami Verhelst of SexandRelationshipHealing.com). This webinar lists the signs of an "unhealthy" versus "healthy" relationship. This is a helpful webinar for those who are currently in a relationship crisis due to betrayal, uncovering an addiction, emotional abuse or other relational traumas. As you begin the repair and healing process, its important to understand the goals you're working toward. Or if you're leaving your current relationship, its important to know what to avoid or work toward in the next relationship. Kristin shares what "relationship experts" such as Interpersonal Neurobiologist Dr. Dan Siegel, Dr. Stan Tatkin, Dr. Brene Brown, and Dr. John Gottman cite as traits and elements of healthy, long lasting, pair-bonded relationships. She also shares signs and symptoms of unhealthy relationships.
(THIS IS EDUCATIONAL ONLY, THIS IS NOT THERAPY)
*UNHEALTHY Relationships have the following present:*
-lying, abuse, neglect
-fear of harm, strong distrust of the other
-shaming, belittling, manipulation
-Power OVER dynamics, rather than equal sharing of power
-Threats, ultimatums, quid pro quo, coercion, attempts to control the other
-strong focus of whats wrong with the relationship or other person
-changing who you are to fit what you think the other person wants
-the relationship moves from one intense moment to another
-there are NO repair attempts
-there are NO boundaries or rules for healthily dealing with conflict
*HEALTHY Relationships have the following traits:*
-the other person feels more stabilizing rather than destabilizing to your life and body
-your partner helps co-regulate (rather than dysregulate) your nervous system
-The 4 S's are present--SAFETY, SEEN, SOOTHED, and SECURE attachment
-attunement--ask questions, connect with "inner world" of the other
-willingness to repair
-accountability
-willingness to be vulnerable--share not just good parts but bad parts of experiences
-presence of conflict but an ability to do so with respect, avoiding blame, clear communication
-safe physical touch and emotional connection
-desire to help the other person feel safe, work toward healing together
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Highlights
1:23 Exploring what relationships experts say lead to fulfilling relationships
4:20 how to apply this information
6:15 Signs of Unhealthy Relationships
6:45 What is neglect?
7:28 Shaming and Belittling
8:40 Relationship crises with active addicts and betrayed partners
9:35 Power over and power under
11:00 Boundaries versus coercion
12:20 Changing who I am to get or prevent a certain outcome
14:45 No repair attempts
16:18 Signs of a Healthy, connected, balanced relationship
16:40 How our nervous system impacts our relationships
17:26 How a healthy relationship can co-regulate your nervous system
19:40 The importance of pair-bonding and secure attachment
21:00 How to feel more safe, connected, and intimate
23:30 Repairing a relationship
25:23 Importance of attunement
28:34 Feeling "soothed"--self care and asking for help
31:24 autonomy versus your "responsibility" to your partner
32:45 final elements seen in healthy relationships
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