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| Name | 5 Ways To Survive Your Next Family Gathering |
| Video Uploader | Video From You Can Make It Happen With Michelle |
| Upload Date | This Video Uploaded At 10-12-2018 00:51:04 |
| Video Discription | Hi and welcome back to my channel! This video is going to be very helpful for those of you that will have to go in survival mode, this holiday season. For many people, family get-togethers require strategies for staying out of sticky situations. Before you head over the river and through the woods, give some thought to the following suggestions: Strategy #1: Give Up Hope- Most of us go home for the holidays thinking, God, grant me the ability to change the things I cannot accept. Even if we don't consciously realize it, we want our families to cease and desist from all the things that affect us like fingernails on a chalkboard. Strategy #2: Set Secure Boundaries- Given that your family members will probably go on being their same old selves, you need to decide how much contact with them you really want. Are there certain relatives you simply can't tolerate? Are there others you can handle in group settings but not one-on-one? How much time and intimacy with your family is enough? How much is too much? Strategy #3: Lose Control- The only way you can avoid getting stuck in other people's craziness is to follow codependency author Melody Beattie's counterintuitive advice: "Unhook from their systems by refusing to try to control them." Don't violate your own code of values and ethics, but don't waste energy trying to make other people violate theirs. If soul-searching has shown you that your mother's opinions are wrong for you—as are your grandfather's bigotry, your sister's new religion, and your cousin's alcoholism—hold that truth in your heart, whether or not your family members validate it. Strategy #4: Become a Participant Observer- Some social scientists use a technique called participant observation, meaning that they join groups of people in order to watch and report on whatever those people do. Strategy #5: Debrief. you should exchange phone calls with your debriefing partner(s) within a day or so of the family encounter, just to reconnect with the outside world and head off any annoying little problems, such as ill-considered suicide. |
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